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Do Amish and Mennonite girls get to pick their husbands?

 I grew up in a plain hybrid Amish/Mennonite community in Michigan that was part of a larger church in Pennsylvania called Charity Christian Fellowship. People did not date in these plain religious communities. Instead, they did something called courtship or courting.   My first personal interaction with this process was when my favorite big brother decided to marry when I was seven years old. The first thing he did was go to our Father and ask what he thought about the young lady from the church he’d been praying about getting to know better.  Our father gave his blessing and went to go visit the young lady’s father to inquire if he was open to marrying his daughter to my brother. Her father gave his blessing and said he’d ask her if she was open to entering a courtship with my brother with the goal of marriage within 6 months.  She said YES when her father asked and their courtship officially began.  My brother and now dear sister-in-law were made fo...
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What kind of games do Amish and Plain children play?

Growing up Amish there are a lot of daily chores to be done. However, there is also a lot of joy when it comes to games. Traditional games for mainstream American children such as baseball or basketball are not generally played. This is interesting considering the wide acceptance of other games that incorporate balls and running in connection to other games. 

A common game my siblings played in the summer months growing up in Michigan was called “kick ball”. This game was similar to baseball except you kicked the ball vs swing at with a bat. Another common game played also by mainstream children, was capture the flag or red rover.  

We also had homemade swing sets, tire swings, and other similar toys in addition to a playhouse where my sisters and I played house with our dolls. In these aspects, our childhood was charmed. In addition to living on an 18-acre farm with gorgeous woods and a pond. Unlike today’s helicopter parents, we were given almost total freedom to explore without caution.

For example, one winter my brothers build an ice slide out of snow and water off of the barn roof. We kids (11) were allowed to climb up to the barn roof and slide down the ice slide to our heart's content. We were also given warm cocoa with milk when we got back indoors by the fire to warm. Some afternoons there would also be fresh warm bread slathered in homemade butter from our cows to go with the hot cocoa. These are the happy moments that stand out to me from my childhood. 

The downside was that girls were not allowed to wear snow pants in the winter. This is because it is forbidden in these religious communities for a woman or girl to wear anything that pertains to a man. So while my brothers got to wear snow pants outside to insulate in the winter, my sisters and I had to just wear dresses with homemade flannel non-waterproof bloomers underneath when we went outdoors. 

What did you enjoy playing growing up? 

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